tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post1096636181457513799..comments2023-11-03T09:15:22.062+00:00Comments on Not Even a Bag of Sugar: PTSD - The Elephant in the BlogKykareehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00316100979546486127noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-54317408343107524742012-05-25T17:19:10.275+01:002012-05-25T17:19:10.275+01:00Kylie, it is no wonder you feel like this after wh...Kylie, it is no wonder you feel like this after what you have gone through,it is totally understandable after having gone through your experience and I would imagine it would take a long time to heal. XxxxxRachel Manningnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-24498621773302112022012-05-24T17:07:48.231+01:002012-05-24T17:07:48.231+01:00I was gutted to be reading this, to hear that you ...I was gutted to be reading this, to hear that you are feeling alone. You are not alone in still feeling traumatised three years later. I know plenty of mums of prems who feel like this and this late on as well.<br />My advice to you would be stop putting preassure on yourself to recover. Okay hubby has moved on, well good for him but you are still allowed to feel like this, you just have to talk about it more with people who are in the same space xdiary of a premmy mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13829424922988781001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-7996451788517771682012-05-22T18:37:08.354+01:002012-05-22T18:37:08.354+01:00Hi Kylie,
So much of what you've said strikes...Hi Kylie, <br />So much of what you've said strikes a chord with me. I have 2 premmies. my youngest, ivy, is a few weeks younger than Joseph. <br />For about a year after she came home I didn't leave the house without my hubby. I was so scared of everything! I did cognitive behavioural therapy for 6 months, possibly more I forget, and found it really helpful. Not that it is a magic wand, unfortunately. I don't think I could say I'm all better, but better than I was! <br /><br />Anyway, thank you for posting this. There seems to be support for post natal depression, which is brilliant! but very little for mums and dads who have babes are born too soon or sick. Raising awareness of how difficult it is, is really important :) <br /> <br />Much love and hugs xxxxpodgypixiejohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03260673072193700857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-65161619660857732642012-05-22T18:37:07.546+01:002012-05-22T18:37:07.546+01:00Hi Kylie,
So much of what you've said strikes...Hi Kylie, <br />So much of what you've said strikes a chord with me. I have 2 premmies. my youngest, ivy, is a few weeks younger than Joseph. <br />For about a year after she came home I didn't leave the house without my hubby. I was so scared of everything! I did cognitive behavioural therapy for 6 months, possibly more I forget, and found it really helpful. Not that it is a magic wand, unfortunately. I don't think I could say I'm all better, but better than I was! <br /><br />Anyway, thank you for posting this. There seems to be support for post natal depression, which is brilliant! but very little for mums and dads who have babes are born too soon or sick. Raising awareness of how difficult it is, is really important :) <br /> <br />Much love and hugs xxxxpodgypixiejohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03260673072193700857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-35440963682774011972012-05-22T18:37:05.523+01:002012-05-22T18:37:05.523+01:00Hi Kylie,
So much of what you've said strikes...Hi Kylie, <br />So much of what you've said strikes a chord with me. I have 2 premmies. my youngest, ivy, is a few weeks younger than Joseph. <br />For about a year after she came home I didn't leave the house without my hubby. I was so scared of everything! I did cognitive behavioural therapy for 6 months, possibly more I forget, and found it really helpful. Not that it is a magic wand, unfortunately. I don't think I could say I'm all better, but better than I was! <br /><br />Anyway, thank you for posting this. There seems to be support for post natal depression, which is brilliant! but very little for mums and dads who have babes are born too soon or sick. Raising awareness of how difficult it is, is really important :) <br /> <br />Much love and hugs xxxxpodgypixiejohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03260673072193700857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-38115369295901997052012-05-22T18:36:22.794+01:002012-05-22T18:36:22.794+01:00Hi Kylie,
So much of what you've said strikes...Hi Kylie, <br />So much of what you've said strikes a chord with me. I have 2 premmies. my youngest, ivy, is a few weeks younger than Joseph. <br />For about a year after she came home I didn't leave the house without my hubby. I was so scared of everything! I did cognitive behavioural therapy for 6 months, possibly more I forget, and found it really helpful. Not that it is a magic wand, unfortunately. I don't think I could say I'm all better, but better than I was! <br /><br />Anyway, thank you for posting this. There seems to be support for post natal depression, which is brilliant! but very little for mums and dads who have babes are born too soon or sick. Raising awareness of how difficult it is, is really important :) <br /> <br />Much love and hugs xxxxpodgypixiejohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03260673072193700857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-3547646245871289062012-05-22T13:06:09.035+01:002012-05-22T13:06:09.035+01:00Would you consider trying EFT? I have a friend who...Would you consider trying EFT? I have a friend who teaches people this- she mainly does it for fertility these days, but it's been useful for me and other friends for all sorts of emotional trauma. LMK if you are interested and I'll give you her contact details. She does it on phone. It does sound a bit woo, but it was very helpful for me.jacqhttp://mymumdom.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-79574387317601457402012-05-22T10:48:08.337+01:002012-05-22T10:48:08.337+01:00Sad but wonderful post. I hope you get through thi...Sad but wonderful post. I hope you get through this dip and come out the other side very soon.Katetakes5noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-86452479328904985312012-05-22T08:50:10.790+01:002012-05-22T08:50:10.790+01:00You do need to keep perspective yes, but it's ...You do need to keep perspective yes, but it's ok to "lose it" once in a while. It actually does you good, I think anyway. <br /><br />You say you "feel very much alone". Just remember this one thing, you are NOT alone. You have people surrounding you who have been through similar experiences just waiting to hold your hand through this. I know it's not quite the same as no-one's experience was your experience but we're all here for you, we really are. <br /><br />Call if you need to hon xxxMummypinkwellieshttp://www.mummypinkwellies.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-17485211328171616992012-05-22T08:46:56.368+01:002012-05-22T08:46:56.368+01:00It's definitely ok to feel like this at times,...It's definitely ok to feel like this at times, I'm not sure it will ever go away. If talking about it helps, then do it. If hubby doesn't want to talk you have a big network of friends who know exactly how you feel.<br /><br />This trauma has changed you forever and is why you do all the selfless things you do for other people and charities. <br />As above,its a huge think and even though Joseph is ok,your plans for the future have changed and that in itself is a huge adjustment. <br />Xgemgemmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05286852601567415428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-66807944582860683412012-05-22T08:34:32.264+01:002012-05-22T08:34:32.264+01:00It isn't ever over. And I could say loads of ...It isn't ever over. And I could say loads of things about that which would just sound wrong in a comment box I think but I'll just say I struggle most with trauma from the things that basically came right enough. The births that crippled me were far worse, PTSD wise, than the baby who didn't come home. Lots of that comes down to care and circumstance I think at the time and lonely and frightened and not supported enough is very hard to overcome. When it actually all goes so wrong that you can't fix it, I think different emotions come into play.<br /><br />I have to admit I get grumpy with people who complain about silly things without an understanding of how lucky they are but I do understand that life is only ever as hard as the biggest thing you are dealing with. And anyway, you aren't grumbling about a little thing. This was a big thing and yes he's fine but you know, unfortunately, that it can all just go wrong in an instant and his birth altered your entire life and many of your dreams, and that's a big, big thing to come to terms with.Merrynoreply@blogger.com